Lie: it gets easier

I’ve listened to this lie countless times. You’ve heard it too: the golden and sweet sounding thought that holds a fools gold above your head and says “oh once this circumstance is over things will be wonderful. Oh if only this trial would pass quicker, grumble, grumble. I can’t do this—((self pity)).”  Thoughts like: things will be better once my two year old turns three or once he’s potty trained or once the house stays clean or is clean, once my husband starts doing a or b, once I have oodles of energy, everyone’s healthy or once I start those projects you’ve wanted to do for so long, or have more “me time”. Satan wants us to focus on the hazy future saying to ourselves  “I’ll have joy then! What we lose in this process is the joy now. We lose the ability to give thanks and know God through this trial. We will always have trouble in this world. If now one  issue/trial is  getting far too little sleep then next year(s) it will be something new.  Jesus says In this world you will have trouble, but take heart—He gives us peace and has overcome the world. Some new trial will crop up in God’s providence. Consider the word trial. God is using it to grow you and test your faith. No, God’s not trying to ruin your life–He’s actually saving us from ourselves. It boils down to not fighting Him:

Do not be like the horse or the mule, which have no understanding but must be controlled by bit and bridle or they will not come to you. Psalm 32:9

God will graciously use each trial He portions to us. Do not let the enemy deceive you that God is far from you and that you are alone in this. These circumstances that pain and trouble you are life saving and will be hedges that guide you to Christ.. They will cause you to find joy in God if you learn to lean into Him through the pain.

  “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” Matt. 11:28-30

Beware of self-pity while dealing with the trials you go through. Self pity is demonic and will sap you of all strength and cause you to feed off of others sympathy. It will cause you to become a complainer and to focus on how hard your life is. You will lose sight of the goodness, strength and power of God at work in you and this situation. Most of all it is a sin and grieves our Father as it shows we are not walking trusting His promises and thanking Him for what He will do for us. We must rise above and claim the promises (these precious gifts are yours, your birthright and inheritance!)  He has given us. We must boldly come before Him, yes confess our sins and then realize we are made right with Him through Jesus and therefore we must ask for an increase of faith, and then walk in that faith and light He will give us. We must ask to be made humble like Jesus and ask that our spirits might submit to His training and to His love and fellowship in the trial we are facing today. We also  must not walk in fear of tomorrow’s trial. We must know that each day God will give us the strength we need as we look to Him in faith. We must lean hard upon Him. We must ask in desperation of all other help. We must go first to Him for help and we must believe that He will faithfully give it!

Today whatever trial and hardship you are going through whether it’s a seeming mountain or a screaming toddler (all trials are hard whether the biggest or the most mundane seeming!) go to God’s word ask in desperation of all else for God to give you one promise and hang on for dear life. Tomorrow repeat. Go to God hungry and watch as He fills your soul with good. God must create in us a hunger for Him and that blessed hunger He will fill!

Now when he saw the crowds, he went up on a mountainside and sat down. His disciples came to Him, 2and He began to teach them, saying:

Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.

Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.

Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth.

Blessed are those who hunger and thirst after righteousness,

for they will be filled.

Blessed are the merciful, for they shall be shown mercy.

Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God.

Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called the sons of God.

Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.

Blessed are you when people insult you, persecute you and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of me. Rejoice and be glad, because great is your reward in heaven, for in the same way they persecuted the prophets who were before you.


I’m writing this post because I’ve been stuck here too many times. I can tell you from my own off track pit stops that this is a lie that will rob you of the precious gifts of God to you His child. You have an inheritance in Christ. Walk in it. Claim it. Hold on to it and live it! Ask God and see how He pours down His mercy and answers you in your time of need.


2 thoughts on “Lie: it gets easier

  1. My confessor recently reminded me that self-pity is an expression of pride, as are vanity and impatience, because it’s all about me, me, me.

    Jess, how true: “It will all be better when such-and-such happens” is SUCH A LIE! Satan also knows that in order to be true disciples, we have to carry our crosses, which means facing the trials of every single day with a spirit of gratitude and hope. He wants us to believe that if a certain thing happens, THEN we will be happy, but if we listen to that we will forget that the cross=suffering, good suffering, holy suffering! We can’t be afraid to suffer. Like I read in my meditation book the other day, once we make the decision to pick up the cross, we have to face squarely the reality that we will end up dying on that cross. That’s the only way to Jesus. This is a beautiful thing, an honor. We can only do it through Him.

    Thanks for all the reminders and for sharing your own heart, because that’s the kind of testimony that knocks the enemy down.

    • Elizabeth, you always add so much thought when you comment. I appreciate your perspective. What you said to about carrying our crosses is really something I need to think on more. It’s so true. Thank you for sharing!

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